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Going along to get along.  Keeping the peace.  Non-confrontational. Easy going. Placating. Highly accommodating.  Overly compliant. These are all ways to describe the style of relating that some call people-pleasing.  Do any of those phrases resonate with you?  They do with me.  How do you feel about noticing this in yourself?  Have you ever been curious about it?  Have you ever wondered why others can be disruptive, make waves, or speak their mind, but it just seems like you

They were sitting in their brown VW bug as her dad drove them home from church that sunny spring afternoon.  She had on a dress and tall white knee socks. The year would have been about 1980.  Annie's mom was in the front passenger seat crying.  The car was silent except for her quiet sobs.  Annie was sitting directly behind her mother, so she couldn’t see her, but the tension in the car was palpable.  Her sister sat staring out the window, appearing to be somewhere else comp

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The first time that someone looked into my teary eyes and told me that I needed care because I had been impacted by trauma, I had no idea...

We spend a great deal of time and energy searching after the “thing” that will finally make us feel whole. The newest self-help book, the...